Posted by: cck | December 12, 2012

on pink

When I first realized I was having a girl – that there was femaleness growing inside of me – I panicked.  Girls are tough.  I have no doubt that I will also say “boys are tough” somewhere down the line if I am so blessed, but I don’t have a boy – I have a girl.  There’s pink.  Lots of pink.  And while I feel we’ve done a not bad job on keeping the princess shit away from our home (although, dude: Halloween.  My bad.), I cannot keep pink from creeping in.  And why should I?  Would I avoid dressing a boy in blue just because omigawd that’s so gender stereotype?

I’m trying to raise a girl who can do anything – who can change a tire, bake a cake, sing, dance, give a kick ass presentation, write, build, love… No small task.  I want her to be comfortable and confident in her skin.  As a woman, that means being in touch her version of femininity – whatever that may turn out to be.

Most of her toys are gender-neutral: blocks, Little People, animals.  Her only doll is a Kirk plushie from ThinkGeek.  Her Christmas presents – from us – are all raucous toy-related: a ball pit, a water mat, trains.  K wanted to get legos, but they’re a wee bit small for our girl.  I found Mega Blocks – which I think will fit both the big kid’s and the little kid’s desires.  Here’s my challenge: pink or primary?  There are two options for starter-sets.  The girl set is actually a few bucks cheaper than the other.  My first thought is to purchase the primary color set.  It follows along with how I’ve been purchasing toys – gender-neutral.

MegaBlocks 2 PinkBlocks 2

What am I telling my daughter by eschewing the pink – that being pink isn’t okay?  Am I challenging a gender role because I want her to be raised without its confines?  Later, if I have a boy, will it send the wrong message by not encouraging play with all colors – that pink blocks are somehow bad?  Ugh, when does gender development really happen?  Like many things in this parenting journey, I know I’m over-thinking this.  I will continue to dress her in pink when I want, and also in red, blue, green, yellow (but not orange – never orange).  Pink is not the enemy.  Thinking only pink is where things get dicey.  Which one would you buy?

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Responses

  1. You daughter will be one lucky girl. She will be ready for anything. Best gift there is. “I’m trying to raise a girl who can do anything – who can change a tire, bake a cake, sing, dance, give a kick ass presentation, write, build, love… No small task. I want her to be comfortable and confident in her skin. As a woman, that means being in touch her version of femininity – whatever that may turn out to be.” Merry Christmas to you and your family.

  2. Primary color blocks could be useful when she is learning colors. I like gender neutral items in general because they can be used with future children whether boy or girl.


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