Posted by: cck | February 7, 2012

equal chances

Today, the Ninth District Court decided that Proposition 8 was unconstitutional based on the power of the word “marriage.”

All parties agree that Proposition 8 had one effect only. It stripped same-sex couples of the ability they previously possessed to obtain from the State, or any other authorized party, an important right — the right to obtain and use the designation of  “marriage” to describe their relationships. Nothing more, nothing less.

I got married – and I got married to a man.  I’m real lucky that he has that penis.  That’s the only thing that’s different from my loving marriage to my husband, and thousands of monogamous, loving, unrecognized relationships between same-sex couples.

It really is about the power of the word “marriage.”  And it’s not as simple as reframing it in the way that pro-life became anti-choice.  There’s not a separate but equal word for marriage.  Civil union just doesn’t encapsulate the romance, hard work, commitment, importance that is marriage.  And since I didn’t go to the Methodist Church for my marriage license, and instead went to Leon County and the State of Florida – I don’t see why marriage can’t mean a committed relationship between two consenting adults.

“Proposition 8 serves no purpose, and has no effect, other than to lessen the status and human dignity of gays and lesbians in California, and to officially reclassify their relationships and families as inferior to those of opposite-sex couples.”

I don’t understand how – as a nation – we can stand in the way of love.  Nah, not getting all sappy or anything, I just believe in the sanctity, the beauty, the power of marriage.  I believe everyone who’s willing to take a giant leap of faith and partner up with another human being should get the same rights I get.  I’m not special because I’m a woman and my partner is a man.  I’m special because I took that leap of faith and continue to do so.

There are a gazillion reasons why marriage should be open to all Americans, but bottom line it comes down to the fact that separate can never be equal.


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